5 Ways to Begin to Mentally Prepare Your Daughter for College
Most upcoming freshmen become nervous about college, and it’s completely normal. If you are noticing fear and panic in your daughter, then it is your responsibility to ease her burden and show her your support. As a parent, your role goes beyond helping her financially because she needs your encouraging words and moral support the most.
Following are 5 ways you can help mentally prepare your daughter for
her college experience:
Without a strong support system, your daughter will have a hard time during the transition to college. Assure your daughter that you are always there for her and she should never hesitate to pick up the
phone and call you for your support. This will help her feel more calm, and at home, just by hearing a familiar voice.
As a parent, it is important for you to convey confidence in your college-bound daughter to figure things out herself as well as ask for guidance when necessary. Let her know that she has the tools to confront difficulties. It will make it easier for her to face the upcoming challenges.
Tell her that fear will be a reality but stay open to new things.
Tell her to expect some fear in her new experience, because if she expects only good experiences, then she will be blindsided by the not so good ones. Also, tell her to be open to new things and accept that she is going to be exposed to a new environment and experience things she has never experienced before. If she understands that things are going to be different, it will make the transition easier because she will already be mentally prepared for that change.
Share with her that hard work will be a reality
This is often a difficult and shocking reality for students. In college, students need to depend on themselves to get through exams and assignments. Parents are out of the loop. Tell your daughter that
it is on her now. A conversation about this topic will help her realize and accept it as well.
The social transition is often a bumpy ride
Students tend to quickly make a lot friends in their freshman year. However, it is important that you talk to your daughter about having realistic expectations regarding friendships. There is nothing wrong with holding onto others going through the first few weeks. But there are other places out there for meeting people. Encourage her to explore places of interest to meet people who have things in common on a mental level.
Work with her on important independent life skills
Does your daughter know how to do her laundry? Cook? Is she comfortable taking public transportation? It is important for her to learn these skills so that she can accomplish them on her own with more confidence in college. College can be an enlightening and interesting experience of your
daughter’s life. There are a lot of decisions made which impact on the richness of this experience. By mentally preparing her for that experience will surely enhance the likelihood of a productive and meaningful college life.