Success Secrets for College-Bound Women: How to Be Safe at College Parties

Success Secrets for College-Bound Women:   How to Be Safe at College Parties

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This should not be you or your friend.

Parties can be a fun way to meet new people and release tensions, after a stressful week of classes.  But even though you want to let loose and have fun, don’t forget to be smart about your own safety.  With- usually- large crowds, mostly composed of strangers, and lots of alcohol and hormones running amok, it is important to be proactive about your own safety, and the safety of your friends at parties.


Always have a “sister” when going to a party.  Make sure that you arrive and leave with your sister and that you watch out for one another during the night.  You don’t have to stay attached at the hip the whole time, but if one of you goes MIA, you’ll know at least one person will notice and start looking for you.  And remember, it works both ways.  So no matter how much fun you’re having, or how attracted you are to that cutie from the football team, if you notice your sister has gone missing, it is your responsibility to look for her until you find her. Treat her like you would treat your blood sister.


Set up a system that works for you.  You can designate a certain time to meet up during the night to “check in”, or periodically check in with each other by text message.  You can even determine a secret code word that would only be used in case of emergency.  It’s important to also devise a strategy ahead of time on what to do if one of you becomes incoherent.


Although I think partying sober is a great alternative, it’s a reality that, sometimes, college students might drink until they aren’t thinking clearly, and right about then, it might seem like a good idea to leave with a sexy stranger.  You and your sister need to plan ahead for situations like this, and figure out how they should be handled.  Someone will always need to keep a level head. Who will that be? Who will be the designated sober driver?

It is always good to have someone looking out for you and vice versa.

Who can you ask to be your party sister or sisters and what is the plan to stay safe?

Lacey C. Clark!, a Founder’s Scholar graduate of New York University is a speaker, and the author of Phenomenally U: A Young Woman’s Guide to Being Smart, Safe and Successful in College.  She is available for small and large meetings, church events, academic speaking engagements and seminars.
Please visit Lacey C. Clark!’s website at or call (913) 735-3568 to book her for a speaking engagement or media event.



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