Success Secrets for College-Bound Women: How to Build New Relationships with Other Women

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How to Build New Relationships with Other Women

When creating new relationships in college, see other young women in your life as allies and not enemies. If you looked at the next woman as yourself, how would you treat her differently?  If you focused on collaboration instead of competition, how would your interactions with other women change?

Have you ever counted the number of times the word, “bitch” is used to demean and belittle another woman on popular reality TV shows and in media?  What kind of power does that word have? What do you think the characters really mean when they use that word?  If you ever used this word, what do you mean by it?  Why is there so much venom and contempt in some rooms full of women?

Could it be that you disapprove of yourself but instead of admitting that, you find it easier to detest the next woman?  If yes, here are three ways to begin to learn how to be accountable to your BODACIOUSNESS and DIVINITY, and embrace the same in others:

1.Compare yourself to no one.

Everyone has their own light to shine. Own yours. Focus on creating beauty in your life. You have the power to grow and cultivate delightful moments and experiences in your reality.

How can you create something lovingly blessed in your life today?

2. Don’t hate, Celebrate!

Celebrate and honor thyself.   When you take the time to lift up your blessings and strengths, you will have no time to hate on and belittle others.   Focus on creating your lane and drive in it well!   This will inspire you to connect with others who are “driving well.”   Drive together and help each other go farther.

In what ways can you celebrate your uniqueness this week?

3. See “She” as You.

Look for women to admire, support and encourage.   How would you want to be admired or treated?  Be unapologetic about honoring the special blessings and the beauty of others without losing yourself.   Offer genuine compliments.  Share resources that can benefit her.

With whom would you like to begin to build a better relationship?
In what ways can you offer positive goodness to the women around you?

Lacey C. Clark!, a Founder’s Scholar graduate of New York University is a speaker, and the author of Phenomenally U: A Young Woman’s Guide to Being Smart, Safe and Successful in College.  She is available for small and large meetings, church events, academic speaking engagements and seminars.
Please visit Lacey C. Clark!’s website at or call (913) 735-3568 to book her for a speaking engagement or media event.




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